Is it wrong to have multiple "potential" boyfriends? |
Doctorbees « Citoyen » 1436341080000
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A friend of my sisters was talking to me about dating and she kept bringing up these two guys that she was on the fence about dating either one. Oh and it...I don't know...kind of rubbed me wrong way. Seems kinda shallow to judge the people you go out with the same way you would judge packages of meat. Though I may just be an out of touch idiot, probably many people do this. What do you think??? |
Beachair « Sénateur » 1436345340000
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It's forbidden in some countries '-' |
Mousechris « Censeur » 1436346240000
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I don't understand why people find things like this controversial, so what if a person gets their feelings hurt, they don't get the girl. This is how evolution works, for example, let's say two girls both have a great personality, you'd choose to try going for the one that looks more attractive to you, wouldn't you. It's only natural to think someone is attractive and to choose between certain options, in fact it's better to have options, with that you can choose what genes you want your offspring to have. Dernière modification le 1436346420000 |
Doitsudoitsu « Citoyen » 1436365380000
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I don't even get what you're asking. by "packages of meat" do you mean she's judging them solely on their looks? or were other qualities included? unless it's an arranged thing, I genuinely question what else would lead to the formation of relationships other than the perceived pluses one may feel dating another has. let's say person A wants to date person B and the reasons for this are as follows: they feel attracted to B romantically and/or sexually, they enjoy the company of B and would like to be more intimate with them, etc. in the end, in this scenario and I'd imagine most others, it all still comes down to the benefits the relationship would have on person A. even if A is considering B's feelings as well, making B happy is still a benefit for A as this may make A feel better about themselves for being a good person. |
Zakryah « Censeur » 1436373540000
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... have you ever heard of courting?? Usually girls would have multiple men courting her at a time for her to decide whom she wanted to date. It's not a shallow thing. She spends time with both men to see whom she's more compatible with. |
Haruhitastic « Censeur » 1436383920000
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Mousechris a dit : Sure, if you're a douche. Anyway no. I agree with Zak. Unless your sister has been leading them on/leading them to believe they're in a relationship, there's no harm in it. |
Soullessoven « Citoyen » 1436392140000
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building a harem is the way to go |
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Mroranges a dit : i personally don't like the idea of multiple partners, but it's ultimately your choice it's sometimes heavily looked down on, but it's not wrong. at least in my eyes Dernière modification le 1436412540000 |
Zakryah « Censeur » 1436418420000
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Snowandachee a dit : But she doesn't have multiple partners? They're not dating. |
Mousechris « Censeur » 1436422860000
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Haruhitastic a dit : Why?... It's only human. If someone is less attractive and doesn't get the date because of it, so what, it doesn't make the person a douche, they both have great personalities, but one looks better physically, the only other option would be to date neither, or to date both. So I ask again, why would that make you a douche? You claim it does but don't back it up, and I don't see it. |
Monatilus « Citoyen » 1436424240000
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Mousechris a dit : or you could also date the less attractive one sorry for bursting into the thread like that bye |
Mousechris « Censeur » 1436425140000
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Yeah, you could, but I don't see how actually doing that would be logical. You date her so she doesn't feel bad about her appearance and the other girl will get her feelings hurt then. And were talking about date type people, not like, oh hey you know the less attractive person on a personal level. Which then again begs the question, why? |
Haruhitastic « Censeur » 1436451240000
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NO YOU DATE HER BECAUSE LOOKS AREN'T EVERYTHING???? While I find my significant other incredibly attractive, even if he wouldn't have been, I would still be madly in love with him. Because I'm not shallow, for one; and because personality is far more important than looks. Dernière modification le 1436453580000 |
Dancingkengo « Citoyen » 1436451300000
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Mousechris a dit : it makes you a dbag bc you're assuming that a woman can be summed up in a package deal of "great personality" personalities are different. having a "great" one doesn't mean they are exactly the same. people pick SOs based on compatibility in every area, not some weirdass "well they're the exact same but one is PRETTIER" situation. |
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Haruhitastic a dit : Agreed |
Saelus « Citoyen » 1436474520000
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Haru we're talking about if two people have equally appealing personalities, the decision then comes down to physical appeal. Stop jumping down peoples throats for wanting someone who is attractive in both personality and appearance. Personality isn't everything. If it was, sexuality wouldn't exist. |
Haruhitastic « Censeur » 1436474820000
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I realised that and tried to edit my post as best as I could while still expressing myself (hence my edit earlier), thank you. While it's true it's not everything, focusing solely on appearance still makes you look bad imo. But that's the beautiful thing about opinions. |
Saelus « Citoyen » 1436477640000
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Focusing solely on appearance is the definition of sexuality. Doesn't matter how great of a personality a girl has, she is still completely unattractive to me and therefore I will date a guy with not as great a personality because he is attractive. Does that make me bad because I will never date a girl no matter how good her personality because she's not as attractive as guys? |
Sarkazm_lol « Citoyen » 1436478360000
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no, it isnt |
Haruhitastic « Censeur » 1436479200000
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Saelus a dit : Yes, I see the point. I don't think they're 100% comparable but yes, I get it. |