[EN] The Comfort Corner!

icegirlypro a dit :
ok, i'm writing in this spoiler what i felt recently
so this week i felt like shit because..,
i was sick and one of my kitty is lost and Thursday heard that my other kitty died, last night i was searching photos of them and i found photos with them when they we're little
I WAS LIKE CRYING WITHOUT STOP, alsO THEY WE'RE POISONED

i. wish. that. person. who. poisoned. them. to. burn.
LAST YEAR 3 CATS OF MINE DIED BECAUSE THEY WE'RE POISONED why the fuck every year you're poisoning my cats JUST whY
i felt such like shit... but now when i am thinking of them i'm almost to cry, because.. i was pretty happy with them, when i was playing with them.. i attached with them, i still don't know their gender though
ok sorry for the last words but is normal to feel like this

I'm really sorry to hear you and your cats had to go through that, I have three cats whom I love dearly and would hate for any of them to die that way. It's normal to grieve over pets passing away, don't let other people tell you different - I know some who try to say "it's just a pet, it doesn't matter, you can get another", but that's not really true. Pets' personalities and bonds with their owners can be very unique and impossible to replace.

It's okay to cry. If anything, it's good to, because its a means of letting those feelings out. I'd also suggest venting to anyone who can understand what you're going through right now and be a comfort to you, as well as spending time with people who can help cheer you up when you need a distraction. Don't feel bad if you spend a long time grieving for said pets either, there's nothing wrong with that. Grief can be a very long process, disregard anyone who tells you to just "get over it already".

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Ravenwhisker a dit :

This is probably going to sound unbelievable and stupid but, uh..
Lately I've been hardly motivated to do anything, I've found nearly everything old and boring, it really sucks. A lot of the time, I'm wondering if why I bother to do anything at all. Even though I'm failing two classes in school, I can't bring myself to do the work. That's probably just me being lazy, though.
Another thing is that I'm starting to keep myself away from everyone, and I don't know why. I feel like I can't trust anyone, even my friends and family, and I keep thinking that they'll all abandon me at some point, though they did nothing wrong. I also think that my friends will make fun of me and talk about me behind my back. That and I feel like they don't care about me at all.
The last problem is that I feel like everyone hates me, even those who just met me or don't know me at all. I keep thinking that I'll be judged for everything I do and say. It's really stressful and I feel like I need to be perfect at everything I do.
I don't know what to do about any of this. And um, sorry if I sound like a drama-queen or something.

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please comfort me <3333

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eternalcool a dit :
amazing thread
okay so i dont really think this is worthy of being on this thread but i have these best friends right
well i was asking them what they think i'd do in case i needed money ( it popped into my mind shh ) and they said " be annoying " and after that i thought stuff like " do they think of me as annoying " and everytime i always try to make a joke they dont laugh but one of my friends laugh when the other tells jokes

long story short i want to know if i should still be their friend or not because if they see me as annoying i dont want to be their friend but they're amazing friends and i just

idk man

ok so

one of my friends ( p sure the other ) today just said " we werent friends from the start, i just wanted not to hurt your feelings "

which i mean is good and all but

really

she could of told me that before??

so now i'm sad ( i have family stuff going on rn now so ) / stressed

and i wanna cry but i wont and it just

hmmph

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This boy gives me dirty looks, and follows me, trying to touch me... And this girl pets my hair, tries to get alone with me, talks in a rapist voice only to me, and watches the girls change in the locker room..

I'm afraid of being raped by either of them... PLEASE HELP DX

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Speak with a teacher and tell them you're uncomfortable with how they act and what can be done.

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Boefie a dit :

Soo.. um
Ive worked really hard for this math test, considering i have dyscalculia. It was really hard but i got a B! It was my second positive grade in 2 years. When i told my parents, i only got a "good job". They didn't talk about it anymore than that. That really hurt, but i got over it. Today my sister scored in a soccer game, and my parents went crazy, cheering and talking about it all the time. They are not sportfans and my sister is older than me. This is really bugging me. It feels like a heartbreak, haha.

They may not realize how hard it is to do a math test with dyscalculia. I have a friend who suffers from dyslexia (I don't know if I can actually compare it?) and many people still don't understand how hard it is for him to read a text or write one. Most of us don't really know how it feels.

But when we see, for exemple, people doing hard sports, we can say 'wow, that must be really hard to do'. It's something we can compare our situation to and see for ourselves what it's like. I'm really bad at soccer, and when a player score, I'm really impressed, because it's something I've tried to do but sucked at. But dyscalculia isn't something we all experienced, so we can't really say anything about it.

So don't worry, just because some can't recognize the hard work you put into your test, it doesn't change the fact that you did great. You can talk to your parents about it and try to explain to them how it feels like to be doing a math test with dyscalculia. Some things are kinda hard to understand unless we experience it, but it's always better when people are aware of it too.

Proud of you for your B, by the way

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noice thread

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kelkein a dit :
Boefie a dit :

Soo.. um
Ive worked really hard for this math test, considering i have dyscalculia. It was really hard but i got a B! It was my second positive grade in 2 years. When i told my parents, i only got a "good job". They didn't talk about it anymore than that. That really hurt, but i got over it. Today my sister scored in a soccer game, and my parents went crazy, cheering and talking about it all the time. They are not sportfans and my sister is older than me. This is really bugging me. It feels like a heartbreak, haha.

text text

My mom used to have the exact some problems as me when she was my age, she also does my homework with me.
It's not that it's only with this test, they often put my sister infront of me. But thank you! That helped :)

jolteatspie a dit :
noice thread

well, i got into a panic attack and said some things i dont remember, and now suddenly everybody is caring. somebody who never wanted to talk to me again feels forced to talk to me because they think im gonna just lose it now and its just stressful. i dont want to hurt anybody and all i want is for things to be normal, not forced.

First off, sorry to hear that! Hope you feel better. I don't think there is anything you can do about the caring, people just do that. But if people are actually afraid, you should explain to them how a panic attack works and all. When i had my first panic attack it really gave my friends a scare. After i explained to them what was up and how it works, they understood.
Idk if this helped, but well.

Another thing sorry haha

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I think you should try facing the fear and going for it- like we said before try making YOURSELF proud. If you cry and panic, that's fine, it happens to lots of people! If you panic and you get teased- tell the teacher you're being harassed. Or, try talking to the teacher and see if you could sing privately on stage?
Do what /you/ think is the right thing to do.

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Daapplehead a dit :
I think you should try facing the fear and going for it- like we said before try making YOURSELF proud. If you cry and panic, that's fine, it happens to lots of people! If you panic and you get teased- tell the teacher you're being harassed. Or, try talking to the teacher and see if you could sing privately on stage?
Do what /you/ think is the right thing to do.

I, i don't think i can. Its a fear that has been apart of me for so long. I know that some girls cried, and i also know that the teacher got mad at them and told them to tough up. I'm going to throw in all the mainstream excuses about why i can't, and i know i should try it, but..
I just recently started therapy and i..
I already asked the teacher about it, and she said no. I'm just going to think about what to do for a while.

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Boefie a dit :
kelkein a dit :
Boefie a dit :

Soo.. um
Ive worked really hard for this math test, considering i have dyscalculia. It was really hard but i got a B! It was my second positive grade in 2 years. When i told my parents, i only got a "good job". They didn't talk about it anymore than that. That really hurt, but i got over it. Today my sister scored in a soccer game, and my parents went crazy, cheering and talking about it all the time. They are not sportfans and my sister is older than me. This is really bugging me. It feels like a heartbreak, haha.

text text

My mom used to have the exact some problems as me when she was my age, she also does my homework with me.
It's not that it's only with this test, they often put my sister infront of me. But thank you! That helped :)
jolteatspie a dit :
noice thread

well, i got into a panic attack and said some things i dont remember, and now suddenly everybody is caring. somebody who never wanted to talk to me again feels forced to talk to me because they think im gonna just lose it now and its just stressful. i dont want to hurt anybody and all i want is for things to be normal, not forced.

First off, sorry to hear that! Hope you feel better. I don't think there is anything you can do about the caring, people just do that. But if people are actually afraid, you should explain to them how a panic attack works and all. When i had my first panic attack it really gave my friends a scare. After i explained to them what was up and how it works, they understood.
Idk if this helped, but well.

Another thing sorry haha

With music class i have to sing infront of the class, on stage with a microphone.
When i first heard about it i got a panic attack. Luckily the lesson where we had to sing i was absent, but i just have to do it the lesson after the holidays. I'm scared as fuck, haha. I'm afraid that i will cry and panic infront of class, which i did a year ago and left me with alot of weird looks and teasing. I'm actually sure that i will panick and flip in class. I will sob and try everything to escape, and i don't think my class should see that. I'm currently in therapy for this fear. But the singing is a MUST. I don't know what to do, i've considered just not doing it and getting an F, since my parents dont care about music.

maybe you could practice, sing infront of a few people first. Or you can imagine you're singing infront of lots of people when you're singing alone.

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Excellent thread!

Okay, so, I am worried about my friends at school. We created a group a while ago, but we've broken up our group countless times! We can't keep our group together very well... We often break up, but the next day my ex-friends act as if absolutely nothing has happened. It annoys me, because if they really are my friends, wouldn't we take each other more seriously??? I just don't know... Are they really my friends?

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Boefie a dit :
Daapplehead a dit :
I think you should try facing the fear and going for it- like we said before try making YOURSELF proud. If you cry and panic, that's fine, it happens to lots of people! If you panic and you get teased- tell the teacher you're being harassed. Or, try talking to the teacher and see if you could sing privately on stage?
Do what /you/ think is the right thing to do.

I, i don't think i can. Its a fear that has been apart of me for so long. I know that some girls cried, and i also know that the teacher got mad at them and told them to tough up. I'm going to throw in all the mainstream excuses about why i can't, and i know i should try it, but..
I just recently started therapy and i..
I already asked the teacher about it, and she said no. I'm just going to think about what to do for a while.

Skylamouse a dit :
Boefie a dit :
kelkein a dit :
Boefie a dit :

Soo.. um
Ive worked really hard for this math test, considering i have dyscalculia. It was really hard but i got a B! It was my second positive grade in 2 years. When i told my parents, i only got a "good job". They didn't talk about it anymore than that. That really hurt, but i got over it. Today my sister scored in a soccer game, and my parents went crazy, cheering and talking about it all the time. They are not sportfans and my sister is older than me. This is really bugging me. It feels like a heartbreak, haha.

text text

My mom used to have the exact some problems as me when she was my age, she also does my homework with me.
It's not that it's only with this test, they often put my sister infront of me. But thank you! That helped :)
jolteatspie a dit :
noice thread

well, i got into a panic attack and said some things i dont remember, and now suddenly everybody is caring. somebody who never wanted to talk to me again feels forced to talk to me because they think im gonna just lose it now and its just stressful. i dont want to hurt anybody and all i want is for things to be normal, not forced.

First off, sorry to hear that! Hope you feel better. I don't think there is anything you can do about the caring, people just do that. But if people are actually afraid, you should explain to them how a panic attack works and all. When i had my first panic attack it really gave my friends a scare. After i explained to them what was up and how it works, they understood.
Idk if this helped, but well.

Another thing sorry haha

With music class i have to sing infront of the class, on stage with a microphone.
When i first heard about it i got a panic attack. Luckily the lesson where we had to sing i was absent, but i just have to do it the lesson after the holidays. I'm scared as fuck, haha. I'm afraid that i will cry and panic infront of class, which i did a year ago and left me with alot of weird looks and teasing. I'm actually sure that i will panick and flip in class. I will sob and try everything to escape, and i don't think my class should see that. I'm currently in therapy for this fear. But the singing is a MUST. I don't know what to do, i've considered just not doing it and getting an F, since my parents dont care about music.

maybe you could practice, sing infront of a few people first. Or you can imagine you're singing infront of lots of people when you're singing alone.

^ Skyla has a great idea, actually!

If it doesn't go as you planned, just say you tried. Trying is better than not trying at all, isn't it?

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i have summer school i'm forced into thru june to august 4 days a week 4 hours a day just because i'm 3 points behind on the state average :/
what now...

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