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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY. I'm an extrovert too, so I'm extremely sensitive to how people perceive me and how I interact with them. If I feel like I screw up, I start overthinking "they probably hate me" or "it'd be best to leave them alone". The slightest neglect can hurt. And then, I feel like I can't talk about it, because I don't want to be "attention seeking". It's okay to need attention. That's just how your personality functions! People have given "attention seeking" a negative connotation, so we automatically assume the worst. I feel like I'm actually pretty terrible at 'real' advice, and I do better helping with emotional support. I also feel more comfortable helping since you're an extrovert like myself. I get it. I understand. This is something I've worked through too. Personally, I think that you're cute, funny, helpful, and fantastic overall! You're a great friend, and I think people need to seriously do some soul-searching if they think otherwise.

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smartiewolfs a dit :VoirMasquer

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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY. I'm an extrovert too, so I'm extremely sensitive to how people perceive me and how I interact with them. If I feel like I screw up, I start overthinking "they probably hate me" or "it'd be best to leave them alone". The slightest neglect can hurt. And then, I feel like I can't talk about it, because I don't want to be "attention seeking". It's okay to need attention. That's just how your personality functions! People have given "attention seeking" a negative connotation, so we automatically assume the worst. I feel like I'm actually pretty terrible at 'real' advice, and I do better helping with emotional support. I also feel more comfortable helping since you're an extrovert like myself. I get it. I understand. This is something I've worked through too. Personally, I think that you're cute, funny, helpful, and fantastic overall! You're a great friend, and I think people need to seriously do some soul-searching if they think otherwise.

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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY. I'm an extrovert too, so I'm extremely sensitive to how people perceive me and how I interact with them. If I feel like I screw up, I start overthinking "they probably hate me" or "it'd be best to leave them alone". The slightest neglect can hurt. And then, I feel like I can't talk about it, because I don't want to be "attention seeking". It's okay to need attention. That's just how your personality functions! People have given "attention seeking" a negative connotation, so we automatically assume the worst. I feel like I'm actually pretty terrible at 'real' advice, and I do better helping with emotional support. I also feel more comfortable helping since you're an extrovert like myself. I get it. I understand. This is something I've worked through too. Personally, I think that you're cute, funny, helpful, and fantastic overall! You're a great friend, and I think people need to seriously do some soul-searching if they think otherwise.

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man, I really empathise to an extent too. I'm not an extrovert but I have had friends lately who I care a ton about but just don't really care as much about me. it's horribly upsetting when you're told by your friends that they just aren't bothered to talk to you as much anymore. whatever the reason is, even if it's not personally aimed at you. you just can't help wishing endlessly that they'll eventually see you as someone they care about too and someone that means more to them. even more so when you feel like you were worth more to them before, I just keep hoping maybe there's something I can do to make the clock turn back to how things used to be but I know I can't.

still, I agree with bagel, smarty you seem like a really fun person to hang out with and it sucks to hear some of your friends haven't been treating you as well as they should. and so are you bagel! from what Ive seen on en chat you seem like a really nice, affection person so in a way it's sad to hear you've had to deal with some of the same things (worrying about being "attention seeking" and stressing over being neglected).

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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY. I'm an extrovert too, so I'm extremely sensitive to how people perceive me and how I interact with them. If I feel like I screw up, I start overthinking "they probably hate me" or "it'd be best to leave them alone". The slightest neglect can hurt. And then, I feel like I can't talk about it, because I don't want to be "attention seeking". It's okay to need attention. That's just how your personality functions! People have given "attention seeking" a negative connotation, so we automatically assume the worst. I feel like I'm actually pretty terrible at 'real' advice, and I do better helping with emotional support. I also feel more comfortable helping since you're an extrovert like myself. I get it. I understand. This is something I've worked through too. Personally, I think that you're cute, funny, helpful, and fantastic overall! You're a great friend, and I think people need to seriously do some soul-searching if they think otherwise.

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man, I really empathise to an extent too. I'm not an extrovert but I have had friends lately who I care a ton about but just don't really care as much about me. it's horribly upsetting when you're told by your friends that they just aren't bothered to talk to you as much anymore. whatever the reason is, even if it's not personally aimed at you. you just can't help wishing endlessly that they'll eventually see you as someone they care about too and someone that means more to them. even more so when you feel like you were worth more to them before, I just keep hoping maybe there's something I can do to make the clock turn back to how things used to be but I know I can't.

still, I agree with bagel, smarty you seem like a really fun person to hang out with and it sucks to hear some of your friends haven't been treating you as well as they should. and so are you bagel! from what Ive seen on en chat you seem like a really nice, affection person so in a way it's sad to hear you've had to deal with some of the same things (worrying about being "attention seeking" and stressing over being neglected).

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smartiewolfs a dit :VoirMasquer

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this has been happening to me for a while now, and i want to spill it, so here it goes

i feel like my friends dont care about me anymore.
whenever they're feeling down, i try my best to emphasize with their circumstances and give them the best advice i could but nowadays all that they do is just turn me off, or pretend to listen to me but they never get interested and turn on into someone else. whenever i achieve something great, and feel like i could show it to them, their only response is 'i dont care'. sometimes they just think im not there at all, or that i dont even exist. they dont take me seriously at all, and especially when i want to spend time or talk with someone, they neglect me like ive did something very bad to them (when i did not), and this makes me feel really left out, since the only way that i can get real energized is when i socialize with people throughout the day. (extroverts' nature yo)

this is not an 'attention-seeking' problem, yet sadly people percieve it as that, but believe me, this is a different story.
now i dont want to hurt anyone for not paying attention to me when i need them, it's fine, i can understand that kind of reply and move on, but when it happens frequently, it gets very annoying, and it's like im being forcely disconnected from this world. i don't want this kind of person who tells me to 'get over it' and meet new friends. well sure, i could do that, but this problem is very extreme itself and i want my friends to think that im worth it, that im the kind of person who they'd like to meet, the kind of person that'll always be there for them when they need her. i just want someone to cope with my situation with comfort and make it all better, i just want to feel loved again, and not taken by granted.

tl;dr im very lonely, and that i dont think im enough to this world

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I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY. I'm an extrovert too, so I'm extremely sensitive to how people perceive me and how I interact with them. If I feel like I screw up, I start overthinking "they probably hate me" or "it'd be best to leave them alone". The slightest neglect can hurt. And then, I feel like I can't talk about it, because I don't want to be "attention seeking". It's okay to need attention. That's just how your personality functions! People have given "attention seeking" a negative connotation, so we automatically assume the worst. I feel like I'm actually pretty terrible at 'real' advice, and I do better helping with emotional support. I also feel more comfortable helping since you're an extrovert like myself. I get it. I understand. This is something I've worked through too. Personally, I think that you're cute, funny, helpful, and fantastic overall! You're a great friend, and I think people need to seriously do some soul-searching if they think otherwise.

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im very glad to find out that im not alone in this, and honestly, i think you're a very great friend. seriously, your advice to me isn't terrible at all, in fact, it just made me feel alot more better to see somebody who runs through the same problem like i do, that is not a failure. thank you for emphasizing with me, im blessed to have a very grateful friend like you, and i don't think i can let go of that special friendship!

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yes, this is very stressing! it just keeps happening, friends do come and go.
i never knew it was a common thing to worry about things like these until i've read what you said, and i have to admit, it's true.
thank you very much doitsu :) i can see how things look terrible for you and bagel, i want to save you both from this, but i wish i could. the two of you deserve as much love as possible, i hope my reply suffices enough to tell you how much i care :)

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Aw, thank you! I would love talking to you more, you sound very nice and helpful from what I've seen you post! It does get tiring worrying about how people view you, because even something like an unanswered text sends me into panic. Sometimes I wish that I wasn't so sensitive, but this is just how I work! The same traits that make me worry also help me empathize and connect with people.

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this thread was a really good idea

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ive really just sorta given up on alot and i cant break the feeling of really bad stress, i constantly break down if im not occupied and i want that to change
???: I'm extremely unmotivated and I feel like breaking down and crying constantly.

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yo snow, wish I could give you some actual help/advice there, but still wanna say I'm sorry to hear it
though I will say crying once in awhile can actually be helpful to relieve stress so maybe it'd be be helpful to pick a time when you can nap/sleep after, won't be bothered and give into that urge, see if it makes you feel any better

not sure what the stress is mainly related to but, if it's school, then marking your calender (if you haven't already) for when you get breaks. looking forward to them and counting down the days might help a bit. rewarding yourself for doing stuff, like a nice snack/spending money on something you like, can help with motivation - even more so if you can get a parent involved, like asking them if they'd be willing to give you something reasonable for doing x amount of work

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Uh well
recently something happened in my friend group, and it basically resulted into me disagreeing and they weren't happy about it. But they just dropped it..
But it feels like certain people that were the most annoyed by me disagreeing are more distant to me now. Ignoring things i say etc...
Should i confront them about it? I don't want to be that anxious friend, but i AM that friend.

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Imho yeah, confront them about it on a one-to-one basis. Could ask something like "hey, I feel like you've been distant with me lately - be honest, is it related to what I said before?" from there it's up to you whether you wanna talk through it with them over what happened, apologise for what you said and try to mend the friendship, or defend your viewpoint/disagreement(?) and try to get them to see your side (at the risk of them just asking for it to be dropped and continuing to be distant, though)

good luck either way, hope everything goes alright

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i can't remember the last time i had fun.. every day is just the same routine and im seriously starting to lose it. i am really starting to go out of my mind. every day it's the same thing. waking up, going to school, coming home to transformice. i seriously dont know what to do, i feel like a bird in a cage. i want to get really far away from here but there is just zip i can do. every weekend i sit in from of a screen from 7 in the morning to 12 at night and I just don't know how much more i can take. other than school i have not gone anywhere in nearly 2 months. i haven't been out with friends in nearly 6 years. not once have i talked to my friends out of school. i never do. i probably sound like a 30 year old man living in his mom's basement playing CS:GO but the difference is there is nothing i can do about it. i cant gut people from real life. i lock myself in a room all day. just thinking about people from my school makes me sick to my stomach. my mom never takes me anywhere, there is no way i can just get around. in a nutshell i guess life is so bland to me im seriously beginning to lose it. i just want to run away really far but there is nothing i can do. high school is just adding salt to the burn. im gonna snap soon and im not sure what to do. i just need help.

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I feel like I'm gonna be alone forever

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i need a friend

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i need a friend

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I'll be your friend.
I hope you like sci-fi and weirdness