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birdluv a dit : <3333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333333 ty a million!!!!!!! |
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I honestly hate myself right now. My crush, who I have have had a crush on for most of my life, denied me and called me weird. It feels like my self confidence has been shattered into a million tiny pieces. It feels like it's all my fault. |
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balloonfeet a dit : its not your fault, don't worry. Your crush probably has different taste in girls (if hes shallow, ditch him). NOTHING was your fault do something that will distract your brain and not think about your crush. You will forget about him soon(probably) Dernière modification le 1454114880000 |
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balloonfeet a dit : Alright, as I said in the EN Chat, I know this feeling fluently. Here's some important tips: 1. Cut all contact from the person, at least as much as you feasibly can. You need to forget about them. The longer you know them, the longer you'll remember how they (intentionally or not) hurt you. This is vital 2. Don't self-hate, although it's so typical. Remember that the vast majority of people have been rejected at some point, so you're not a loser in any way. Think about the people who love and care about you. If there's just one person who treasures you (be it parents, close friends, siblings etc) then the world is a better place because of you. And think about your positive traits, being honest about them, not letting your emotion cloud your judgment 3. I shouldn't bad-mouth your crush because I don't know her personally. But think about it, was she really worth obsessing over? Compare her to other people, of all ages. 4. Hang out more with people you like. 5. I say this too much on this thread, but try getting into something new, or something you haven't been into for a while. A TV Show, movie series, anime, video game series etc. Very helpful 6. Remember that time heals all wounds. (Unless you suffer from clinical depression, in which case you should see a therapist/psychologist) |
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recently i've tried an attempt at self harm at school. the closest thing to a knife i could get to was a really sharp pencil, and that left marks on my hand and people started questioning me i really want to stop and i cant, and since im home it might start there is no reason behind it really i just tried it, and im positive it'll continue and im scared it might get worse.. |
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Swirlfire a dit : Um I don't really know about this stuff but you should talk to your parents or someone like that. I'd suggest keeping yourself distracted or occupied with other stuff and try to keep your mind busy with other stuff Try reading a book, or drawing maybe. If that doesn't work and you end up trying self harm again, you should really get help. Dernière modification le 1454116860000 |
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Swirlfire a dit : Self harm takes a lot of emotional energy. It takes time. No one self harms for no reason. It does something for each of us, whether it is relief or communicating our distress or numbing or calming. We wouldn’t do it otherwise. Unfortunately, it is not an effective long term strategy. After a while you need to do more and more to get the same effects. And eventually, it stops working completely. You run out of skin to cut, you run out of pain you can endure, and it hasn’t made things right. Every time you hurt yourself you have the potential to accidentally do more than you intended. Listen, you do not need to be hurt, not by anyone, not even yourself. So please stop Seek help irl.... |
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Swirlfire a dit : self-harm never starts out good no matter how its performed, and sticking with yourself till the end is so much more worth it than getting rid of something so dear to the earth and all of its inhabitants. keep in mind that people care about you, people think you're extraordinary, and most important of all we'll be here for you. i'll be here for you. it's never for no reason, either. you may think it isnt, or have no particular idea in your mind of what it could be, but there's a lingering idea in the back of your brain that knows why. it's waiting for you to find it. and once you find it, you can work on exterminating it. distract yourself from the action as much as you can, doing things you enjoy, etc. do anything possible to keep your mind off of it. that's the only that's going to lead to your happiness. if you can't do this, seek help from those around you (whether it's a parent, school counselor, therapist, whatever) and open up to them. |
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One of my accounts was Identified and its no longer a secret that it's actually me I wanted it to be a secret but they happend. I have been humiliated on this Publicly on this fourm and skype because of this. I do things on that account that I Don't Dare to do on my own account like kpop seventeen profile pics of that hot guy or something.... I don't know what to do or how to feel after this experience... I just Don't... They broke me to the point where it cant be restored. I'm not interested into talking to them again . |
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why feel bad that you do those things? like, if you like them, there's no shame in that. you're not alone obviously considering there's kae and kuo and others. i understand your disappointment and i get that; not saying you're wrong for feeling that way. just approach it from a more positive point of view, in that if those people humiliating you about it should be kicked to the curb. they're not good people to keep around. |
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I haven't seen my father in years. He always says he's going to come back, but he never does. We still communicate by occasional phone calls but that's not enough. The last time i saw him was when i was about 8. I've been worrying about when he's going to get out and I only have my mother and two siblings. he house feels empty without him. |
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oh boy i just remembered this exists Im a depressed teenager with nothing to live for other than 2 persons and a rabbit . I have a shitty mom that prefers to go out with her friends for hours than check up on me , she does it just because she feels guilty i was an accident . she just makes food and cleans up , i have no feelings towards her . she was never there for me in my childhood because she was depressed and took medication; She always hints im the reason she never achieved her dreams My dad is a manipulative and lying man that stalks me and my mom , even after they got divorced . He buys my affection and he was almost never there either in my childhood because of his job . I hate him less since he never judges and supports my decisions and hobbies , unlike my mom , her biggest fear is being judged , she always complains about my actions , clothes or interests . She hates it when im indifferent or careless of her yelling and says im disrespectful . I have no real affection for anyone on my family other than 2 distant cousins . Most of my family is uneducated and religious , homophobic and racist morons . I lack affection to most things and I lack emotion , not being able to simpathise with shitty teenager problems or others happiness . I am antisocial and surive off coffee and junk food , working like a dog at school and being told its not good enough , waiting to get out of a shitty cigarette smoke reeking apartament . I scare people because of my pokerface and my sarcasm which i never mind I am also very direct with people , telling them the truth in any situation , either telling them they are morons or annoying . I know i will never succed in life because i live in a shitty country with no oportunities and i would rather die a hurrendous death than be an office worker My mom triest to push down my throath the ideea that i have many complexes and im traumatised because of their divorce when I couldnt care for that trivial thing any less. I have only 1 friend irl that i care about thats as fucked up as me and one online The only reason i didnt kill myself so far is because death as an endless pit of darkness is boring I like nothing about me ranging from my art to my appearence Yes , I tried going to a psychologist , they told me Im faking depression and that im too rational to be sad over my life Yes I tried getting outside and making friends and doing activities The only thing i havent done is taking pills Ok im done with ranting This is really long Im sorry |
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Well Ice did post in a public comforting thread and that should mean anyone's who's anyone should be able to help and get involved since, this is public. This should have been taken privately in the first place if "there's a lot more we don't know" making it unable for others not in your group to give an opinion or offer a greater amount of help to Ice. : | Personally there's MUCH I want to say but I'm biting my tongue since like you said "there's much we don't know". Dernière modification le 1454276280000 |
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