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#1901

Welp. I'm back again. Goddangit.

So here's the situation:

What i wrote:

Um... hiya! I'm not a parent or anything... and I'm not a student/former student, either. You see, I'm friends with a student of yours. Her name is Arani, I believe? 8th grade.
And, well, I understand that she is in Sri Lanka as of right now and won't be returning for the rest of the month, but once she does return, I request that you make a report to CPS because she's been telling me that she gets abused?

I BEG YOU NOT TO CONTACT HER PARENTS. THEY ARE IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY AND WILL SURELY CUT OFF ALL CONTACT THAT I HAVE WITH ARANI! THEY'LL ONLY HURT HER MORE!

I had a flashcard video of me explaining the situation, but I eventually got paranoid of her parents somehow finding it and took it down. I believe some other friends of mine sent you the link though, anyways. And I understand that this is a strange way to reach out (via an internet friend of hers from Animal Jam) and that I'm not even supposed to have this information, but it's an emergency! You see, Ivy's too afraid to even reach out and, like, believe me, I've tried to get her to do it. She's done so, but she won't flat-out say that she is the one being abused.

Okay, here we go; Arani basically gets beaten every time she gets a grade under 85%. Once, she was on some math website and got 8/10 correct. Her father then hit her multiple times and apparently called her things such as "b*tch" or "wh*re" and such. Another time, she had a few 70s on her report card during 7th grade, last year, and her mom also hit her multiple times. This year, y'know how she didn't make student council because she didn't get enough votes? (i'm assuming everyone voted for their stupid friends or whatever?) Her mom felt the need to mock her, and then GROUND her too. "You're just lazy! Ha, 'they all voted for their friends over me' BLAH BLAH BLAH", that's how I assume it went.

Speaking of other kids, some people bully her. I'm sure you're aware of this (there was an incident where they recorded her singing and made fun of her, correct? Last year?) This year, some kids were mildly harassing her because she came out as Bi. One kid said "God will smite you in hell!", in October.

Arani has 2 siblings, 10 and 9. Sister and brother. No idea who they are or what school they go to. Their parents hit them when they make mistakes, yell a lot (call them "useless", "worthless", "stupid", etc), call Arani ugly, and THREATEN TO ABANDON THEM AND LET THEM DIE. IF THAT ISN'T AWFUL, I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS!!!

One time her sister was throwing a fit, or something, and the dad lost it. He like, threw her off the chair and locked her in a dark room without food or water. Arani had to sneak food and water to her.

(I actually have evidence of this next story, since she told me over Animal Jam, the game we met on back in 2014. She let me take pictures of what she was saying in the chat log. I apologize for the lack of evidence I have, otherwise. I will send it from my phone in a moment.)

Her sister was having trouble w/her times tables and kept getting answers wrong. So her mom kept hitting her whenever she DID get the answer wrong, and she forced Arani to legit just sit there and watch.

Arani says she's used to this. She says that she's tried to kill herself multiple times and "always chickens out". Thank God she's alive.

There's so much more that I don't know. And I'm shaking, crying, and I feel like I'm gonna throw up as I'm writing this. Frankly, I'm scared too. And so is Arani.

Please, the next time you see her...

help her.

Can... can somebody just tell me that I did a good? Because Jacksepticeye songs/playing Cuphead isn't 100% working for me right now. It's cheering me up but I can't help like, being afraid?

#1902

I really need help. I've been thinking of killing myself. It's long story about bullying and abuse so just look on my profile for it and give me advice

#1903

cloverstone a dit :

the best you can do is be there for her, which youre doing well. you guys are far away from each other so you cant stop it from happening, but keeping her happy/looking forward really helps. youre doing the right thing, being there for her. ive never properly been in your situation, but just telling her that shes loved and that it will soon be over is good to do.

samirainbows a dit :

im really sorry this is happening. im not a professional therapist, but if youre experiencing these thoughts, you should really contact the suicide hotline. that seems terrible, i cant imagine what youre going thru, but it will eventually get better. even if bad stuff is going on irl, youre still very loved and youll get to the good parts soon even if you dont see that at the moment. really tho, contacting someone/telling someone will really help. its good to have professional help about this.

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(im really sorry if that wasnt helpful,, just a little love to everyone here <3333)

#1904

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Thank you to everyone who responded.

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#1905

hey pls don't quote

#1906

don't quote

#1907

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#1908

i don't have much to write about because i'm a very negative and angry person but it's worth a try, haha.

please reply asap

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#1909

Finnamon a dit :
i don't have much to write about because i'm a very negative and angry person but it's worth a try, haha.

please reply asap

Hope I helped a lil.

#1910

Onkei a dit :
Finnamon a dit :
i don't have much to write about because i'm a very negative and angry person but it's worth a try, haha.

please reply asap

I'm not really a professional or anything, so take everything I say with a grain of salt. Feel free to message me if you want to disagree with me about anything.

I do think that your aggressive thoughts is a way of you preventing yourself from being "depressed". It's not really a healthy way of coping with stress, it's probably because you have a negative view of being depressed, since you say it's a sign of weakness. I don't know what things in the past made you think being depressed equals being weak, but in my opinion; it's not. It's okay to not be okay. Everyone have bad days all the time, maybe even every day.

I'm not really sure if you're trying to ask for a solution to prevent your anger, but I think if you want to change - please do try understanding what it means to be depressed, it isn't just a sign of weakness. It's a sign of someone trying their hardest. The people that are strong are only strong because they've failed more than anyone.

Hope I helped a lil.

Thank you xoxo

#1911

a year of hard work went down the drain and now i have to live with it.

pm me about it if you want.

#1912

god i post here too much but i just have to vent

#1913

Gingersplash a dit :

#1914

@ginger

#1915

Onkei a dit :

Mikiaya a dit :

thank you both so much. i'll be sure to take your advice and enjoy the time i have left with her

#1916

This should be sticked
This is most motivational topic i've ever seen on THIS forum
Where there are nice and not nice people

#1917

i haven't used this in awhile due to my overwhelming fears of being shamed for it but ?!?! here i go

vent-ish thing? tw: panic attack mentions

#1918

#1919

um ok so I'm very stressed out bc i was procrastinating doing a project by using my phone and so my mom took my phone and shes gonna see all the stuff i was trying to hide like my eating disorder, self harm, depression, schizophrenia, suicidal thoughts/tendencies, panic attacks and the like bc shes probably going through it (shes already gone through my texts with an online friend and told me to stop talking to them) so I'm really scared and i don't like this i feel like its a dream and that I'm gonna wake up and everythings normal again but its not going to happen how did i mess up so badly uughhh ;~;

~Hoppy

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