Haha. A girl came in was like, "WHO WANTS TO BE MY BOYFRIEND?!"
Me: I'm not sure if you ARE a B*tch lol

• [Thefourthone]

Deetea a dit :

Hi i'm looking for bf.

• [Thefourthone] me pls
• [Deetea] no
• [Thefourthone] mean ;c
• [Thefourthone] why not????
• [Deetea] idk

crying now.
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i personally don't care whether or not people ask for boyfriends or girlfriends online

I find the whole thing hilarious.

Epicshawty a dit :

Long distance relationships can be hard (like Gilcatmey said). This is just fucking bullshit, you don't even marry each other in the internet. Relationships counts on irl love, not internet.

Excuse you?
You can love someone on the internet just as easily as you can offline; if not easier because on the internet you don't feel inhibited or shy. Of course it's a sticky situation but it's ridiculous to say that you have to know each other irl to love them.

I think dating online is stupid, that is my opinion.

Epicshawty a dit :

Honestly, I think this is bullshit. People are spamming constantly asking for people to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. This can be dangerous honestly. I have seen videos that people in Omegle tracks them down (by tricking them into being their bf/gf). This can really affect your life and you can be sexually harassed. I think this is just plain bullshit and they should stop.

Long distance relationships can be hard (like Gilcatmey said). This is just fucking bullshit, you don't even marry each other in the internet. Relationships counts on irl love, not internet. Also people ask to be their bf/gf just to look cool. That won't help you with anything.

Also you don't even know them and you just 'be in love'. I hate this kind of stuff and they should really stop. I hate these kind of people in my opinion. They just want to look cool.

This is just plain shit. I'm just sayin'.

Good point, but when you have really gotten to know them and you feel more connected to them than any friends in real life, you just start thinking that real life is bullshit and the internet is way more your type. Then you want to get more friends on the internet, trying to become popular like those people you know irl so you want so many girlfriends and boyfriends and you just lose yourself to the internet world. It's quite complicated.
I'm probably wrong mostly but this is my opinion because I've been there although I've never asked for bf/gfs before. From time to time as a joke with my friends, but yeah.

Kathiehuang a dit :

Good point, but when you have really gotten to know them and you feel more connected to them than any friends in real life, you just start thinking that real life is bullshit and the internet is way more your type. Then you want to get more friends on the internet, trying to become popular like those people you know irl so you want so many girlfriends and boyfriends and you just lose yourself to the internet world. It's quite complicated.
I'm probably wrong mostly but this is my opinion because I've been there although I've never asked for bf/gfs before. From time to time as a joke with my friends, but yeah.

Yeah, I kind of agree with you there. I was kind of wrong with my reply.

Anyways, I still think this is just plain shit.

Just to be clearer, at the start I said that long distance releationships are really hard, but not impossible, if both sides are responsable and they feelo love it cn be possible, but HARD yet.

Kathiehuang a dit :

you feel more connected to them than any friends in real life, you just start thinking that real life is bullshit and the internet is way more your type. Then you want to get more friends on the internet, trying to become popular like those people you know irl .

^ +99, I don't have a bf/gf and I'm not looking or thinking in that xD, but I have more friends here than IRL, as Haru said here I don't feel shy like irl, we feel kinda more free and we feel we fit here, that's the good part of the social internet for me.

h! can u b my bf ! wuv u

lol they all make me laugh

Thefourthone a dit :

• [Thefourthone]
• [Thefourthone] me pls
• [Deetea] no
• [Thefourthone] mean ;c
• [Thefourthone] why not????
• [Deetea] idk

crying now.
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i personally don't care whether or not people ask for boyfriends or girlfriends online

Oh, the picky ones.

While I think that running into rooms asking for bf/gf is rather silly, I definitely don't think that real long distance relationships are stupid.

It's quite difficult to compare these two cases. Mostly because players asking for a soulmate are kids that simply want to show off. They want their friends to know that they're 'cool and old' now, not a kid anymore. I think it's quite normal, you see kids trying to act like adults all the time in real life as well. It's because they don't want to be treated as kids and want to look like older people. They want to look special in front of their peers. 'Hey, look! I have a girlfriend now, I am so cool, she's so pro!' As long as these two only talk between each other and send each other nice hugs and stuff, I have no problem with that. I don't want to upset anyone here, but these relationships are USUALLY not based on real love and don't last long. It really depends on how the relationship starts and how old you are. If you start this way and you two end up loving each other, that is great for you and I am glad you are happy.

However, REAL long distance relationships (LDR) work between older people. There is a big difference between 'I am looking for GF here whisper me' relationship and the one that is built slowly. Yes, LDR is usually very difficult to manage and it's not easy to handle, but if you are mature and you really mean it, then you have a nice chance to keep your relationship strong.

The reason why I am against the following statement: "This is just fucking bullshit, you don't even marry each other in the internet. Relationships counts on irl love, not internet." is because I myself found my boyfriend here in game and I am very happy with him. We started dating exactly 2 years ago. Yes, it's our second anniversary today and we've visited each other a couple of times and we're planning our own future. Who knows, maybe I'll even end up moving from Europe to America in a year because of him. You probably have bad experiences with dating online which I apologize for, but there are some very happy couples that met each other here in TFM. Some of them are even living together now.

However, I have to admit that I do not know of anyone who's happily in relationship by looking for soulmates in random rooms. If some players want to have fun like that, let them be. The thing I am hoping for is that parents taught them how to behave on the Internet and how to keep their privacy from people they don't know.

I agree that TFM is not a dating site, but you do build relationship with people. I am sure you have some good friends that you'd miss if they disappeared and stopped playing Transformice. It's like saying you cannot have friends on the Internet.

Amen *-* Very much admiring your courage to speak up here.

I hate this kind players so much.
Why? They are stupid to date someone in the internet.
Kids even get in here! What the hell?
You even get in terrible danger!
You don't need to build relationships on internet.
You never know who are you facing at the internet.
And terrible cyber breakups could also led you to emotional problems.
Damn kids who do this.
It's okay to have friends in the internet.
Transformice is a multiplayer game. NOT A DATING GAME.
And they also have the risk to do cybers**. Which leads them to countless problems.

People are so stupid. It is always said to NOT do relationships on the Internet!

Well fuck those people.

The only thing I ever get in whisper from strangers is "Ur hot. Will u be mah gf?"
And everytime I reject them, They are all like "D:< IM GONNA REPRT U. U GONNA GET BANED. Y U NO ACCEPT!?"
And I would always say "TFM is not a dating site, it's a mouse game" and they always don't listen.... :T

Now I have alot of friends on tfm
some of them are of the opposite sex
we are REALLY good friends.

But we do not have a relationship because that is ridiculous. If you really think your gonna date a brown blob of pixels controlled by someone on the other side of the world, thats your problem.

Xxninjazxx a dit :

Now I have alot of friends on tfm
some of them are of the opposite sex
we are REALLY good friends.

But we do not have a relationship because that is ridiculous. If you really think your gonna date a brown blob of pixels controlled by someone on the other side of the world, thats your problem.

Usually you're not going to date a brown mouse, you're going to date the person behind that mouse.

I mentioned this on the first page and will mention it again.. the players that are asking for girl/boyfriends (this thread's subject) are not the same people as the players that actually date other players. There seems to be a lot of confusion about that despite the fact that the first group are mainly younger kids that want to be cool whereas the second group are mainly older people that do not spam the public chat with this sort of nonsense.

For those people that find internet relations so weird, take a look at this tv show for once. There are many fakes out there, but that doesn't mean everyone is fake.

Xxninjazxx a dit :

Now I have alot of friends on tfm
some of them are of the opposite sex
we are REALLY good friends.

But we do not have a relationship because that is ridiculous. If you really think your gonna date a brown blob of pixels controlled by someone on the other side of the world, thats your problem.

There's absolutely no problem with people online dating. People who go around asking for a boyfriend/girlfriend in random rooms, of course, that may be a bit silly. However, there are plenty of mature, sophisicated people who gets into strong relationships that started on Transformice.

I will most likely never online date but I have no ill feelings against people doing so. For me, I feel people would need a lot of courage to begin a longterm relationship online and I think it's pretty amazing what the end results are.