I understand you're still young and the possibility of a romantic interest seems scary -- it was to me too at that age, don't worry. If you still feel that way as you get older, it's likely you're something called "aromantic," which is a person who doesn't experience romantic attraction. There's nothing wrong with that, so don't get me wrong! You're not broken or anything of the sort.
It's really nothing to be afraid of, honestly. If a boy starts acting like he wants to be romantically involved with you, just say you're not interested. That's all. If they become a jerk about it, then they're a bad person to be around so it's for the best that they'll want out of your life.
In regards to preventing crushes, well, that's a thing that just...happens. There's a lot of boys that have had crushes on me while I'm in relationships, and I feel bad saying no, but it's a thing you have to do. Which then goes to my previous statement. ^^
Finally, in regards to your father, the downside is telling parents what to do can be perceived as rude and disrespectful. You can always say "dad, I know you mean well but I'm uncomfortable talking about romance, could you please not bring it up?" and see how that goes. Otherwise, it's something you'll have to cope with. I'm sorry.

v -- ok sabs wins lol

Lilytenten a dit :

I was talking with my dad earlier, telling him I don't want to go to school (he's gonna force me to school in Fall), and in the discussion dad said something that really angered me... Though I didn't say anything to show I was angered so much.

Dad was talking about the benefits, saying I'm gonna meet lots of friends, then the comment came... "Then you might meet a boy who'll wanna kiss you." He said. I stuck my tongue out (which, at the time, I was eating chips. So my tongue had lots of chip pieces on it.) and I said "Nope!!!" Dad laughed, and did say that he won't let me start dating until I'm 16, but connecting me and romance can anger me greatly.

How can I prevent my dad from speaking of the topic, how can I prevent boys from crushing on me (while still being my own self), and how do I keep boys at a far distance?

I think your dad simply wanted to find a good reason to motivate you to go to school, not realizing that it is the exact opposite of what you want. I do not know how old you are, but from your post I can assume you are under 16. Young girls of your age often wish very hard to start dating boys as soon as they can. They want to experience something new and of course, feel a bit "older" than their peers ;) I really do not think he meant any harm.

What I would do is simply talk to him and ask him to not bring up this topic again as it embarrasses you. While it may feel silly to bring it up, you will avoid any embarrassment in the future. I can relate to you, as I would get super upset every time I was asked whether I am dating someone. I felt like an awkward potato about this thing until I was 16 and actually started dating. Although truth be told, my first relationship didn't even last a month because it made me feel very uncomfortable and I remember I left the boy for some incredibly stupid reason x3. It is completely normal to be scared or feel awkward/upset if you are connected to this topic.

You want to be your own self, so just stay that way. Do not pretend to be a meanie just because you want to avoid boys. Be nice, have fun and do whatever you feel is right. There is a very good chance that if YOU keep your distance, boys will not be as interested as they would be otherwise. It will give you a chance to mature up and discover your own self before actually jumping into a relationship later in life. Then that will be another crazy ride.

I am sure you will be alright. Just stay yourself and if a boy gets too close, just explain to him that you are not interested.

e: Haru was quicker haha. She also said it quite nicely ;)

Okay, thank you both. :)

i dont think this is worthy enough to be on this thread but oh well

alrighty, sooo

i like to draw, and i'm a HUGEEE beginner like holy fuck, and i only draw at night when i dont have school because like, my mom FORCES me to go to bed on a school night, ANYWAYS, i told my mom i wanted a notebook to doodle in/an actual sketchbook, and she is here literally YELLING at me " NO, I AM NOT GONNA WASTE MY MONEY ON YOUR USELESS SKETCHBOOK/NOTEBOOK " and i was a little fucking scared because she yelled SO loud, but all i wanna do is improve my art on some sketchbooks/notebooks like what the fuck?? and she was in a good mood, because like 2 minutes before she said that, she was like so happy i shit you not, but when she said that she said it as if she was about to MURDER me.


help? i mean, i know maybe she could of got into a bad mood, but why would she just do that? she KNOWS i wanna improve but thats like me killing someone according to her so its kinda like " what "

hnnn thanks in advance

eternalcool a dit :

i dont think this is worthy enough to be on this thread but oh well

alrighty, sooo

i like to draw, and i'm a HUGEEE beginner like holy fuck, and i only draw at night when i dont have school because like, my mom FORCES me to go to bed on a school night, ANYWAYS, i told my mom i wanted a notebook to doodle in/an actual sketchbook, and she is here literally YELLING at me " NO, I AM NOT GONNA WASTE MY MONEY ON YOUR USELESS SKETCHBOOK/NOTEBOOK " and i was a little fucking scared because she yelled SO loud, but all i wanna do is improve my art on some sketchbooks/notebooks like what the fuck?? and she was in a good mood, because like 2 minutes before she said that, she was like so happy i shit you not, but when she said that she said it as if she was about to MURDER me.


help? i mean, i know maybe she could of got into a bad mood, but why would she just do that? she KNOWS i wanna improve but thats like me killing someone according to her so its kinda like " what "

hnnn thanks in advance

I know how it feels when you don't get a small thing you want. Parents are like that. Just tell your mother "I only wanted a notebook/sketchbook. Besides, it only costs $2, so don't be like your going to buy me a video game that costs $15000." Making a good point always defeat parents. If she's like "DON'T YOU DARE TALK BACK TO ME LIKE THAT!" well just talk back: "I have my right to say something, you cannot punish me because of saying something non-offensive." It's not like she's going to hit you or anything; if you become deaf it's not going to be your problem, it'll be your mother's for screaming in your ear, and she will be sorry.

Does anyone like the rp that is in my latest post?

@Catlol24

I think you should fess up to your dad, and be honest.
If that boat is really important to him, I think he would rather know from you before he looks at it himself.
You did wrong, fooling around inside of the boat while you were fully aware your dad cares about it very much (meaning you shouldn't have perhaps played in there at all) so he may be pretty angry.

Be responsible, tell him what you did and accept any consequences (if he is that sort of parent who would ground you).

The sooner you fess up, the better it'll be.

If someone messed up something you really cared about with all your heart, you'd feel a lot better knowing who did it and that it was an accident rather than nobody saying anything at all, right?
I'm sure your dad feels the same way.

Best of luck! ^^

No problem, I hope it goes well for you!

I need to write a speech since I'm running for student council, but I'm not very persuasive. Any advice?

cchiiko a dit :

I need to write a speech since I'm running for student council, but I'm not very persuasive. Any advice?

Maybe start a survey and see what your student peers would want to see from student council and if they're reasonable enough, try mixing some of their thoughts into your speech and explain how you will try to improve on their concerns?

Don't forget you're also human and you can't make everything happen, but you can try to make everyone's voices heard. Some students desperately wish someone could hear them out, why not try adding that or something similar if it seems appropriate to you?

Best of luck running as a candidate, by the way!

Good idea. Thanks for your helpful advice. :)
This edit is long overdue.
I ended up losing, but thanks for your help, Daapple! It really helped at the time.

okay so i need some good advice. Almost every day for me is hell and thats because of school. I have really bad anxiety. Part of the reason why I hate school is because i hate being around other people. i'm not shy or anything. I just like to do things on my own and we do a lot of group work. usually when I work in a group i end up saying fuck u bitch which can get me into trouble sometimes. im also not used to being around other people because on the weekends i never get out of the house and hang out with my friends. instead I play tfm all day. I also get stressed easily about things like homework and assighnments in class. School is really hard for me and my classwork becomes homework. (I get help with my homework). anyway im in 8th grade and im super stressed about school. can anyone tell me how to deal with this?

Samirainbows a dit :

okay so i need some good advice. Almost every day for me is hell and thats because of school. I have really bad anxiety. Part of the reason why I hate school is because i hate being around other people. i'm not shy or anything. I just like to do things on my own and we do a lot of group work. usually when I work in a group i end up saying fuck u bitch which can get me into trouble sometimes. im also not used to being around other people because on the weekends i never get out of the house and hang out with my friends. instead I play tfm all day. I also get stressed easily about things like homework and assighnments in class. School is really hard for me and my classwork becomes homework. (I get help with my homework). anyway im in 8th grade and im super stressed about school. can anyone tell me how to deal with this?

I would honestly say that you should take everything with calm, caring about it. Just try to do good, not the best, but try to follow things how you should. So just try. Anyway, school is hard for everyone and ones who do really good is because they try really hard, but doing excellent isn't actually necessary. Mom was one of the worst at her school and now, she's a great lawyer with a multi-national enterprise. Doing bad at school won't really affect you future. About trying, remember. TRY. Do good, not excellent nor horrible, not your best, just fine. Trying = calmness!


About friends, they aren't really neccesary. It's good to have friends, but if not you can do what you like to do alone. Not having friends is as good as having friends. Both options have good ad bad things.

Remember, calm down!

who ever thought of this thread is genius

Okay so I have a boyfriend but we only have an in school relationship because my parents dont allow me to date. I'll be allowed to date in two years tho. I just think its unfair. My friends could date since they were like 12 and i'm 14 and i still cant date. what should I do to convince my parents or should i just find some way to deal with it?

Gotanyswag a dit :

Okay so I have a boyfriend but we only have an in school relationship because my parents dont allow me to date. I'll be allowed to date in two years tho. I just think its unfair. My friends could date since they were like 12 and i'm 14 and i still cant date. what should I do to convince my parents or should i just find some way to deal with it?

sometimes you got to accept the fact you have to wait. your parents most likely know why they would set down an age boundary anyway. your friends' parents are different from yours, no point in comparing. if you like, you can ask your parents why you can't start dating until the next 2 years.

Is it wrong if I defended a friend by harming the one who bullied my friend in the first place?